I have been happily married 9 years now. In observing other couples and relying on my own experiences I have come to realize that a huge proportion of the arguing is due to sex. Why is there so much fighting and bickering over something so simple? 9 out of 10 times it’s because he wants it more than she doesn’t. He wont stop bugging you for sex and she won’t stop turning him down. While you may feel he’s being pushy with sex you need to look at things from his perspective. Sex between you two is one of the largest symbols of your love for one another. So while you may see it as being pushy he sees it as fighting for something he loves.

     Now people don’t usually like it when you break a relationship down to the raw animalistic nature of things, but I’m going to do so anyway. We are, after all, another animal on this great planet. As a male, there is a very strong natural desire and instinct to stick our hard throbbing cock into a warm wet pussy and shoot a massive hot load into it. A lot of guys will get hard just reading that sentence. I believe it is natures form of birth control for a female to instinctively resist. Just think of all the male animals that have to do a mating call or dance in order to plant their seed. People are no different in this aspect, but what makes us special is that we have evolved to love one another. Sex for us in not merely to procreate but also for pleasure and as a way to express our love for one another. While we have developed these new traits to sex, that natural instinct still exists. That’s why the majority of the time the male is the one who initiates sex. Now… some women say “he tries to initiate sex so often I don’t get a chance, or, I don’t have to”. Well, that’s your fault. You have to head him off at the pass.

     Never should you go to your spouse to simply get off. In doing so it loses its meaning. You’re using the other as a tool and they will sense it and feel it. Eventually your love making will lose it’s love and closeness. You should, however, go to your spouse to get them off. This will make them feel special as opposed to used. It shows how much you care about the others feelings and that you’d like to give them pleasure. A need for closeness and just simply sharing intimacy with your spouse should be the main factor driving the sex initiating process but doing it to simply give each other pleasure or to have fun is great too. Below is a set of simple rules that I feel are necessary to a have fun and happy sex life with your spouse.