So you want to know how to initiate sex huh? Well it may not be too surprising but this is somewhat easier for females than males. Naturally, we’re a little more eager to act on your cues of lustful want. You’re reading this because either you don’t know how or you just plain forgot (yes, I said forgot) how to initiate sex. There could be several reasons for this:

1. Taboo. Society has long stigmatized the act of women initiating sex. For “proper society” the mating dance is an act performed by the male. For a woman to act on her urges and impulsively pursue sex is what, traditionally, makes her a slut or a whore. This taboo is still largely ingrained in the mentality of society. It exists in many of us even subconsciously. Come on folks. Lets wake up and smell the 21^st century. Also anything taboo can make things that much more exciting. Men are looking forward to and fantasizing about women hunting us down to fulfill their sexual urges.

2. You don’t have to. You’ve probably let the man in your life take on the responsibility of this job. It does come second nature to us and we do it so much why do you even need to bother. We’ll let you know when we want it and all you have to do is decide weather or not to comply. Well, this isn’t a “it’s his job to take out the trash” sort of thing. If you’re horny, act on it. Don’t save it for the next time we try to initiate sex.

3. Afraid of rejection. You’re afraid of the idea of being turned down and don’t want to take the blow to the ego. Because Men are generally “ready to go” more often that women, I think this is unsubstantiated fear. You won’t get rejected half as much as we do.

4. Not in the mood. You probably have a low libido or are not attracted to the man you’re with. For the low libido part you’re just lazy and greedy. Ok OK, before you start yelling at me let’s break this down. I’ll present you with two scenarios:

SCENARIO: Your man’s trying to initiate sex and you’re not horny.

OUTCOME: You tell him NO and that you’re not in the mood. You roll over and go to sleep leaving him to fend for himself.

SCENARIO: You’re trying to initiate sex and your man is absolutely positively not horny.

OUTCOME: Either he lets you keep going with the sex initiating process until he gets horny or he gets you off by masturbating you or letting you sit on his face.

While not true 100% of the time, I believe the above two scenarios encompasses at least 90% of the “not in the mood” circumstances.

So now, who do you think is the greedy one in these two scenarios. UMHMM… As far as libido goes, the more you have sex, the more you want it. So I believe the reverse is also true. The less you have sex, the less you’ll want it.

Now knowing why you don’t initiate sex lets take a look at how to do it. As I said before women initiating sex is far easier and, I’d say, has a lot higher success rate than a man doing it.

• Lets say that your man is sitting in front of the computer, again, playing a game. If you were to come up from behind and start giving a shoulder rub that would be great. If after a few minutes he was to turn around and see you were naked, that would be greater! If after a few minutes he doesn’t turn around then just sit in his lap and plant a big wet one on him.
• You’re both in your PJ’s watching a movie. Hmmm, maybe a good porno from bedsideplaythings.com Put your head in his lap to watch. After a while start rubbing his cock thru his pants. Once it’s hard (may not take long) pull it out and give him a nice slow blowjob.
• Get a good vibrator. You can purchase some of the best ones here. When your man comes home from work make sure he walks in on you playing with it. When he asks what your doing ask him to join you. Tell him how bad you’d like his dick in your mouth while you play with yourself.
• Put him on your “to do” list. Literally. You have a to do list hanging from the fridge. We’d love to see our name on it. Anywhere will do.

These are just a few really easy ways for you to initiate sex with your man. Be goofy, get excited, and don’t be afraid to let loose.